Forgive and Forget

Often without even trying, 

the ones closest to our heart 

(by the very nature of their closeness)

are the ones who can hurt us the most.

And because it hurts so much, 

it is our parents, siblings, lovers, close friends

who we can find hardest to forgive.

The remedy in the Quran addressing this problem 

is a quite simple piece of advice:

 "وَلـيَعفُواْ وَليَصفَحُوٓاْ"

"walya'fu": 

and do not punish 

"walyasfahu": 

and turn the page

Simply: 

'forgive and forget'.

Cool. 

But we just said that

it's not always that easy, is it?

So the ayat continues by asking:

"أَلَا تُحِبُّونَ أًَن يَغفِرَ اللهًُ لَكُم"

"Would you not like 

that Allah should forgive you?"

SubhanAllah, with this

Allah has weighed up the difficulty of forgiving and forgetting 

against the magnitude of Allah's forgiveness.

(And what can possibly compare to the magnitude of Allah's forgiveness??)

Meaning, if a person still refuses to forgive and forget, 

it is quite possibly a problem of iman (faith).

If he still refuses to forgive and forget, then

he has to perhaps look into his heart 

to see what is stopping him: 

it could very well be pride and arrogance.

The ayat concludes with:

"وٓ اللهُ غٓفُورٌ رّٓحِيمٌ"

"And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful"

So..will you 

forgive and forget? 🙂

Reference: 

Ustaz Nouman Ali Khan's tafsir of ayat 22 of Surah An-Nur